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(#7) Shouldn't Have Been Married At All
From zucc0:
"They screamed at each other until my mother left. I guess it could have been better, but it was the first of a few times in my life where a huge relief came over me. Then began the negotiation, first through the courts and then through me, for visitation and general planning. That is stressful at seven. Especially when your little brother forgets his snow boots or something important and you have to organize an unscheduled meeting. People later, years after the dust settled, would tell me it wasn't about me and that confused me. Of course it wasn't about me, they were both assh*les to each other and had no business being married in the first place."
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(#3) The Blame Game
From R3solv:
"Well my dad blamed my mom for the affairs that ruined their marriage when he was the cheater and living in his sister's apartment at the time. He felt it make things easier between himself, his sister, his mother who lived downstairs, and us and them, but we all knew the truth. Instead he came off like a huge asshole who was forcing our mother out on the street after everything else he'd done because it was as always about him.
He should have moved out and left us and my mom to care for us; instead we got stuck with him for two years before he moved out and my sister and I took over finances and rent and sh*t at 18 and 16. We never missed a damn rent check or utility bill payment, while he failed to ever pay a thing on time or at all, even when my mom worked three jobs to just put microwave meals on the table."
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(#11) Constant Threats
From IceArrows:
"I deeply resent them for how childish they acted. They would torment me for wanting spend time with the other parent. My mother would use 'go live with your father' as a threat when I was still living with her (my dad isn't a bad person but we don't see eye-to-eye on a lot of important issues). I still hate how they involved me in their mess ('tell them ___', 'you're the reason I stayed', etc.) and how they had no sympathy for my mental health issues. I'm thankful to be an adult now and be able to have relationships with them independent of each other and also at a distance."
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(#9) Point Blank
From nikkissippi121:
"My parents aren't divorced, but they separated when I was seven. The way I remember it, I walked into the living room and my mom asked me point-blank who I wanted to live with. I cried. That's all I really remember. My mom says there was more to it, but I think she doesn't remember correctly. I think if they'd sat down with me and explained that they still cared for each other, but just weren't in love anymore, but that they'd always love me, etc., it would have been a lot easier."
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(#1) At The Airport
From an anonymous user:
"I was five. I remember one day leaving my mom at the airport. My sister and dad were with me. I had no idea where she was going or what was going on. A few days later I began to ask questions and remember my sister telling me that my dad had 'kissed another mommy'. I didn't see or hear from my mom for at least three years after that.
I finally found out last year the exact reasons. It turned out my dad cheated on my mom, then told her. When she reacted negatively he beat her in front of my sister who was maybe six or seven at the time. It went as far as her locking herself in a room to be safe and him breaking the door to get in and beat her more. She had tried to kill herself on three occasions but never succeeded.
For the longest time it sucked because I didn't understand the gravity of the situation and was angry at my mom for abandoning me. Try to avoid this. If neither one of you are violent and hostile or abusive make sure that your kids spend time with both of you. And don't make your partner out to be the bad guy, no matter how tempting it may be.
Whatever you do, try to have your kids understand the situation, don't have them wondering for more than 10 years what actually went down. Most importantly make sure they understand it isn't their fault."
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(#4) What A Vacation
From jimmy011087:
"I was 14, and my sister was 17. It was my dad's fault (he ran off with his now-wife 13 years ago). I got told while on a family holiday and, well, that trip was basically ruined . I took it as well as I could, lobbed a glass at my dad and broke a window, but calmed down eventually.
"As for the divorce, he then pretended his business was worthless when it was actually worth £1m+, so my mum got royally screwed over as she chose a clean break over maintenance. But luckily she worked extra hard to get a career going while looking after us and we always had food on the table, a decent house and saw them both enough."
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A certain research result shows that the impact of parents' divorce on children is negative and long-lasting, and as the child grows up, the negative impact will stably exist, but it is different at different stages of their life. Children in the divorced families generally feel lonely, confused, fearful, and even angry with their parents after knowing the divorce. This is why many parents choose to hide the fact of divorce until their children reach adulthood.
With regard to divorce, children are more fragile than you think, they not only have to adapt to the divorce of their parents but also to the changes that may occur in a single parent or both. The random tool shares the 15 worst ways kids know the divorce fact.
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