Random People Reveal Secrets They Learned After Years Of Dating That Changed Everything (21 items)

• (#3) Her Husband Adhered To Outdated Gender Roles

  From Redditor /u/superslakher:

  Out of nowhere, a year into being married, he said he wanted to join the Marine Corps. He also wanted me to drop out of law school, birth babies, take care of his mother, and a run a household all while he was deployed. Hard pass.
• (#6) He Was Overbearing During Pregnancy And Completely Absent As A Father

  From Redditor /u/rusty0123:

  When I had my first child. The pregnancy wasn't a surprise or an accident. We talked and planned. He got a little overbearing during the pregnancy, like insisting on breastfeeding without even discussing it with me. I put it down to new dad nerves, not knowing any better. 

  Turns out that was only the tip of the iceberg. He believed that children were completely and totally a wife's responsibility. He wouldn't change a diaper. He wouldn't pick up the baby when it cried. No way would he get up in the middle of the night. He expected me to work a full-time job, plus do all the childcare. 

  At that point, I was confused and appalled but I told myself he just needed time to adjust. 

  I realized how delusional I was when the baby got sick while he was on a fishing trip. The doctors thought baby had meningitis. So not just sick, but life-threatening sick. I called and asked him to come home. He refused. He'd paid for two more days of fishing. He didn't want to lose the money.
• (#19) He Found Out She Was A Gold Digger 

  From Redditor /u/hopeyesperanza:

  Former SO: After sex she asked me once, "Baby, how much money do we get when your parents die?"
• (#13) He Lied About His Degree

  From Redditor /u/murderousbudgie:

  He lied about where he went to undergrad. I suspected it while the relationship was still going on, but after he moved out I found some of the stuff he left that included transcripts from a different university than he'd claimed. It wasn't even in the same country. I'm fairly sure most of the stories he told about his childhood were lies.
• (#18) Her Family Had A History Of Cancer

  From Redditor /u/Rotit1230:

  A little over a year after being officially together I finally put together that they had the cancer gene in their family. Despite being crazy in love with her, this made me want to back out (because I totally saw a future with her). Her grandpa and dad both had head and neck cancers, two aunts and one uncle were survivors of ovarian and lung cancer. I knew I wanted kids and she did too, so there was always this looming fear that our future kids might get it. Still went through because she mattered more to me than all my fears combined. Life plays a cruel joke and despite having no vices and being an occasional drinker, she got the big C as well. Head and neck just like grandpa and her dad. Lost her a little over a year ago. Still, no regrets. Still love her a lot.
• (#16) She's Paranoid

  From Redditor /u/Spikito1:

  That she wants to have fights and be mad. For example, we currently haven’t spoken for three days and she's sleeping in the other room because I accidentally texted "good night, sleep tight," instead of just "good night," because I was the one going to bed, not her.

  So in her mind, that text must have been meant for another woman. We live together, we work together, we share a car. How on God’s green Earth could I have a side chick?

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