Random Surprising Facts About Orthodox Jewish Sex Lives & Beliefs (12 items)

(#11) Only Marry Someone You Find Attractive
Jewish law emphasizes the necessity of being sexually attracted to your partner. Even though Orthodox Jews may take part in arranged marriages, the bride and groom are required to meet in person at least once before marrying, and if either partner is not physically attracted to the other, the marriage will be called off.
(#7) Kinky Sex Is Fine - Just No Group Stuff
Bondage between a Jewish man and woman is generally considered just fine - provided they are married, of course. As long as both the man and woman are open, interested, and down to be pinned down, there is no reason they can't try almost any type of kinky sex. The exception? Group sex, partner swapping, or polyamory - kink has to be kept within the bounds of monogamous married couples.
(#12) The Holy Day Is for Getting Down

Ah, the Sabbath. A nice relaxing day to connect with God and your sexual partner.
Orthodox Jews have very strict Sabbath rules that prevent them from doing everything from to turning on the radio to mowing the lawn, but since having sex within a marriage is a mitzvah, it is looked highly upon on the holy day! Plus, it helps spread the Jewish seed, one of the primary preoccupations of the Torah.
(#4) The Woman Must Come First

A husband has an obligation to satisfy his wife sexually, through whatever means she requests, including oral sex or the use of sex toys. Not only does this lead to happier marriages, but traditionally, it was thought that letting a wife orgasm first would make her more likely to conceive a son.
(#5) Sex Isn't Just for Having Babies and Birth Control Is Sometimes Allowed

Even though Judaism is concerned with not wasting semen that could be used for conception, that doesn't mean that sex is only for having babies. The primary purpose of sex, according to traditional Jewish teachings, is to strengthen the bond between husband and wife. Therefore, procreation is not the only reason to have sex.
Since sex is primarily meant for intimacy and companionship, Jewish law allows and even encourages sex during times when a couple cannot conceive - for example, when a woman is infertile, after menopause, or when she is already pregnant.
Birth control is also permissible in some cases. Jewish couples have a duty to have children (ideally one boy and one girl), but as long as they do so eventually, they can use birth control some of the time. The pill or IUD is the method of choice for most Jewish ladies, since things like condoms and diaphragms are sometimes considered another form of wasting semen.
(#9) Hair Is for Husbands Only

Orthodox Jewish men and women dress very modestly. Both sexes are encouraged to wear clothing that doesn't call attention to the wearer's appearance, including clothing that is tight, revealing, brightly colored, or garish.
Women are encouraged to wear long skirts and to cover their hair with a hat or scarf. Many Orthodox women also wear wigs over their natural hair - this way, the beauty of their real hair is enjoyed only by their husbands in private.
Jewish laws concerning modesty (called tzniut) also prohibit wearing clothes associated with the other sex - for example, men are not supposed to wear dresses or other women's garments.